Ego Friendly Interview with Nicola Mar

Nicola Mar is not your average fashion model. Besides for appearing in a plethora of national publications and ad campaigns she also spends a bit of time behind the camera as a photographer and has had articles published on a variety of websites. Born in Austria, raised on the Island of St. Maarten and completing college in the USA, Nicola also has a very interesting, international perspective on life. As an advocate for healthy living, both physically and mentally, Nicola perfectly exemplifies all of the Ego Friendly Principles and we are thankful that she has joined us for our first 10 question interview of the year 2010!

Ego Friendly: As a successful model and photographer how do you actualize your dreams?

Nicola Mar: I always start with goals and find ways I can work to achieve them. It’s all about believing in yourself and that no matter what, you can accomplish your dreams. It’s not always easy, but if you want something badly enough, you work hard at it and never quit.

EF: What are the greatest obstacles you have faced in doing this?

NM: It’s sometimes difficult keeping your mind focused on the long-term goals instead of on short-term frustrations.  Often, people around you are negative, and you have to overcome their attitudes, as well.  It’s important to stay positive.
EF: When creating/shooting do you just start and let the piece “find” itself or do you plan meticulously to “discover” what you want to do?

NM: I definitely plan ahead to make sure I have all the pieces I need, but I’m also spontaneous. Capturing the moment/essence is hard if everything is too rigidly planned. You might wait for something that just doesn’t happen if you’re not enjoying the moment.
EF: What is your overall goal, as an artist?

NM: My overall goal is to be a successful international model and writer. A lot of people don’t know that one of my passions is writing. I’m currently working on my first novel.
EF: What is the most courageous thing you’ve ever done, as an artist or “just” as a person?

NM: Facing what I really wanted and just going for it. I grew up on a small island in the Caribbean. I remember looking through all the fashion magazines as a child and wanting to be one of the models in the ads. I never thought about life outside St. Maarten in those days, and I never imagined I’d be living and working in New York City, doing what I dreamed of as a child.
EF: How do you decide that something is “finished”?

NM: To me, nothing is ever finished. I can always take a better photo, write a better story, etc. But I have to realize when it’s time to let go.  If I have tried my hardest, the result must be good.
EF: How do you keep yourself balanced yet aggressive in the cut-throat world of modeling?

NM: I started modeling full-time after I graduated from college, so I feel like I have my core values in place, and I am old enough that I know what is right and wrong. Many girls start in the business so young that they are still very insecure and easily influenced. I rely on William Menninger’s six essential qualities that are the key to success: sincerity, personal integrity, humility, courtesy, wisdom and charity.
EF: Please share your favorite bit of wisdom (learned or heard) with us?

NM: I collect quotations from famous people.  One of my favorites is from Ursula K. Le Guin: “It’s good to have an end to journey towards, but it’s the journey that matters in the end.”

EF: When it comes to knowledge, which do you feel is stronger, learned wisdom or inherent sense?

NM: I don’t think either one is necessarily stronger.  Each experience you have in life adds to your overall knowledge.  It is important to make mistakes and then learn from them.  Often doing something the wrong way is a much better lesson than getting it right the first time!
EF: What are you working on next?

NM: I’m concentrating on writing my novel and have many new modeling surprises coming up in 2010. It’s going to be a good year!

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